It’s as simple as One – Two – Three.
One of the questions that I get asked the most is…
“Tell me the number one activity that I should be doing if I want to make a positive improvement in my life.“
My answer is…
“How about I offer up 3?”
Step 1 To move from here to there, you need to make changes
Step 2 Those changes will alter the current balance in your life
Step 3 Can you now sustain this new balance in your life?
Step 4 Repeat Steps 1, 2 and 3 as often as you want to
You would think that after more than 30 years searching for the optimum way to improve, empower and enrich my life and then passing on those findings to others who are interested in the same goals, that I would have come up with something a little more exciting!!
There is no secret formula, no specific one size fits all solution and there is certainly no short cut to any of us discovering what will work best for us as individuals.
I would like to share with you a highly condensed version of what I have discovered over the last 3 decades, in the hopes that you can cull some useful information and use it to your benefit over your life journey.
Step 1 To get from where we are now, there has to be movement, there has to be changes to give us the opportunity to reach where we want to go.
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.”
To expect improvements in our lives, we need to step up and examine how we have dealt with issues in the past. There has to be that first step into the unknown; trying new methods of performing old tasks, looking at how we are navigating through life and finding new approaches to tackling new objectives.
Small steps, small incremental changes, can have a profoundly positive impact on our lives. The key is the movement away from what we have always done and taking conscious steps forward with a new direction; a different attitude and a willingness to recognize that if you do not want your tomorrows to look like your yesterdays, you need to make some changes, starting today.
Step 2 These new changes will alter the balance in your life.
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.”
What is life except the constant search for a balance between all areas of our lives and how well we can make those separate but connected areas of our lives blend into one happy, harmonious package?
I believe we now have a two-step plan; make changes and by making these changes we are going to become happier and more content with our lives.
What becomes an issue is how many and how drastic
are these new changes going to be?
Try using this formula:
- You need to suit your personality; small changes if your are conservative, bigger changes if you are the type of person who is not concerned about upheaval and radical shifts in how your life may be effected.
- If your life journey is moving along nicely, you may need only minor tweaking; if you are unhappy with the results you are getting, you may need to ratchet up the severity of the changes you are willing to make.
- Less is sometimes more, when in doubt, err on the side of smaller changes to start,, its easier to add on than it is to take away.
Our objective here is not to change from white to black, but to move closer to a middle grey. We want to find a better balance in our lives, not necessarily find a new life.
Step 3 Is our new life sustainable?
We decided to take action, we made changes and its now time to assess what we have accomplished and, most importantly, is our new life sustainable over the long haul?
“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
Okay, we made some changes to our life, now what?
In the constant evolution of traveling through our life journey, we make changes, add and subtract from our lives, we are hopefully always looking for ways to improve, empower and enrich our lives.
Part of this process should be times when we take a step back and decide if what we have right now is going to achieve and satisfy both of these conditions;
- Have we achieved a balanced life style? In other words am I happy enough now, at this phase and stage in my life to pause in my search for bigger and better, and make this next big decision.
- If I have reached a temporary plateau in my life, having reached a level of satisfaction with how things are progressing, I need to find out if what I have accomplished is sustainable, can I continue on this path?
There will always be this two-way battle, finding some semblance of balance, then needing to find out if we can hold on to that balance, finding that answer and then gathering our breath for the next cycle.
Have you ever noticed this about bananas: they are either a nice gold yellow color for about 12 seconds, then they almost instantly turn brown, almost before our eyes.
Life is a lot like that. We are either ripe or brown.
I find that the way to stay that golden yellow color, is to keep moving, searching, changing, trying to move always empower and enrich our lives. When we stop making these decisions and stop making changes, we turn brown, just like the bananas.
Step 4 Make changes
- Find some happiness, some peace.
- Determine if where you are now in your life is sustainable.
- Take a break, catch your breath, take another crack at it, or as many cracks at it until you are as happy and as content as you want to be.
Life is not a dress rehearsal, we only pass this way once, make the most of it.
PS I have to admit the above ”quote“ is all over the Internet, many variations, this is my take on it. BB
Have a great day